Do you feel like a fitness failure?

October 17, 2018



You may not know this, but in 2001 I married a P.E. teacher.  He was super active, had played every sport since birth, and loved exercise.  Opposites attract.  That P.E. teacher married a super inactive, uncoordinated, sweat-hating girl.


I never felt the urge to exercise.  In my mind, some people liked being active and some didn't.  I didn't.  It felt like unfun torture​​​​.





Fast forward several years to that girl with 4 kids​​ and mysteriously-shrinking pants.  Suddenly exercise had to be put on the schedule, despite all the pouting in the world.


How in the world did I go from loathing to loving exercise?  One day at a time.  


I'm wondering if right now YOU feel like a fitness failure.  Maybe you think, "I should exercise, but I don't want to."  "I am too busy to workout today."  "I'm tired and unmotivated, so maybe I'll do that sweat thing tomorrow."  


​​And then you get down on yourself​​​​.  "What is wrong with me? Why can't I just do it?"  "Why am I so on again off again with working out?  I keep falling off the wagon."  "How do all those busy girls do it?"

What if it's all in your head?  No, I'm not calling you a mental case, haha!  What if your brain is the problem?  Does the concept of "fitness" automatically make you feel like a failure?


Here are 3 important questions to redirect your thoughts about your activity level:


1.  Am I optimistic?​​​​  

  • Do I feel optimal health is impossible or possible?

  • Am I telling myself that I'm always a failure in this area or that change is possible?

  • Is exercise viewed as the enemy or a friend?

  • How can I change my thought life from pessimism to optimism?​​​​

2.  Am I realistic?

  • Do I have realistic expectations of myself or am I aiming for something unachievable/unnecessary?

  • Do I allow imperfection or is perfection the standard?​​​​​

  • When looking at my current schedule, when could I actually exercise?

  • Am I willing to start small and ease my way into a new routine?

3.  ​​​​Am I excited?

  • When I think about fitness, what emotions do I feel?

  • Which activities seem fun, exciting, and challenging?

  • What songs could I play to get pumped up about sweating?​​​

  • If I tell myself I can stop at 10 minutes, does that bring freedom and relief?

  • Which quotes or Bible ​​​​verses inspire me to follow through with my intentions?






You are not a failure.  Period!  You just might need to redirect your thoughts and make a few tweaks!  How can I help you in your fitness journey?  Send me a message by clicking here!





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Hi! I'm Deb

I'm here to help women who feel stuck with the body they have to lose inches and gain confidence in a body they love.

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